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Oct 30th, 2013 by Dr. Edward L. Hall

How can I learn to be SINGLE and CONTENT?   

It is interesting that the Census Bureau figures show that half of the adult population in the United States is single. Later marriages, cohabitation, divorce, death of a spouse, and personal choice account for the high percentage of single adults. More than 30 million of them live alone. Despite the numbers, however, married remains the social norm.

The question that embraces most SINGLES’ thinking is, “how can I learn to be SINGLE and CONTENT?” What about our innate longing to find that unique someone, or that future dream home and little ones running around? Is it possible to find happiness, fulfillment, and CONTENTMENT as a SINGLE person?

Please understand that being SINGLE is a concern that impinges upon a great number of individuals.  What is it about being SINGLE that fashion individuals to experience discontentment?  Why are so many individuals conscious-stricken of being SINGLE?   The problem in our society is, we customarily go by what we see around us.  For example, information about couple-hood are everywhere.  The news that’s being fed is that being SINGLE should be maintained to a short period of time or shy-away altogether if possible, and that you should procure everything in your power to find someone.  In order to become a CONTENT SINGLE, you must be able to recognize and resist the forces at work that make you feel bad about being SINGLE.  One of the vast false impressions in our society today is that a person needs to be in a relationship in order to have a happy and meaningful life.  However, satisfaction and SINGLENESS are not mutually restrictive.  Life doesn’t have to be a strenuous and discouraging torture just because individuals are SINGLE.

The Word of God teaches us to “BE CONTENT” no matter what our conditions are. In Philippians 4:11, Paul said, "I have learned in whatsoever state I am in therewith to be content." The Amplified Version states BEING CONTENT as "satisfied to the point where you are not disturbed or disquieted". It doesn't say CONTENT to the point where you don't want change, but CONTENT for now until God brings the change Philippians 4:6-7.  Just remember, there are many SINGLES out there that have overcome their situations and lead happy and CONTENT lives.  The problem is not that YOU are SINGLE; the problem is our negative views about being SINGLE.  Mr. Les Brown stated, "You are the only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life."  Becoming a successful and CONTENT SINGLE requires one to have conviction in God and in one’s self.  Without self-confidence, it will be very burdensome for an individual to be triumphant as a SINGLE.  Judith Bardwick, a sociologist, put it this way, "Real confidence comes from knowing and accepting yourself - your strengths and limitations - in contrast to depending on affirmation from others."

Minister/Dr. Edward Hall